How to Begin New Life -13 Things I Learned with New Chapter in Life

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Starting a new life is a great opportunity to create your dream life. For some, it can be an exciting new change in life by choice. But for some, life situations can force them to begin a new life. In either case, starting a new chapter in life can be overwhelming. In this post, I am sharing how to begin a new life, which I learned during the new beginning of my life. As I write this I am 6 months past when I started my journey of new life and I wish I had known some of these before to make my life easy. I hope you find these helpful and make your new life journey easy.

My Journey to Begin a New Life

My journey for a new life started a few months back when my company declared they were shutting the office and all the employees were laid off. I have been working in this company for the past 7 years and have put in a lot of effort and turned down opportunities at other firms because I felt obliged for the support extended by my manager for working from home when I returned to work after maternity leave and just 15 days later there was lockdown due to Covid.

On the other hand, A long time back I realized I could not continue with life like this, where I am working all the time and keeping my kid in daycare from 9 am -to 6 pm. So in 2021 I started this blog and was working on it after work. I was tentatively planning to put in my resignation the next month so that my last work day coincides with my daughter’s vacation. But before that, I was greeted with the news of my company shut down.

At first, I was like whatever I was anyways going to leave but later I don’t know why I felt so angry, frustrated, cheated, and unhappy. As the news spread in the industry, I was approached by other companies with better pay that’s when I started to be confused, doubting my decision, and feeling frustrated that just because I am a woman I have to choose between career and personal life. My blog was not making me big money. But I still chose to quit working and work on my blog as I don’t have to keep my 3-year-old daughter at daycare.

I don’t say moms should quit. Girls, you can do everything. But it was a better decision for my family as I moved to a different city after marriage, we have no family member or close friend as a backup in need, and my husband’s work involves a lot of outstation visits with no fixed working hours so sometimes I have to take care of everything myself.

How to start a new life – A New Beginning

Here are some things that will help you start your new life with better control

1: Accept the new Life:

As easy as it sounds it can be difficult. But once you make your mind clear the journey to new life will be easy. The sooner you accept the new life the less hurt you may feel and the better progress you will make with the new life. Spend quiet time alone and just resolve all the conflicts in mind.

Acceptance is not merely a passive surrender, but an active choice to engage with the present and future with an open heart and mind. It means understanding that growth often unfolds through the unfamiliar and that each twist and turn in the journey contributes to personal growth. By accepting the new life, you release the grip of nostalgia or fear, and instead, focus on the opportunities. You need to have a willingness to adapt and learn.

2: Make peace with the past to begin a new life

Making peace with the past is an essential step in embarking on a new life journey. You need to reconcile with past experiences, both positive and challenging, and to release the emotional burdens that may linger. This process doesn’t negate the significance of past events; rather, it acknowledges them as integral parts of personal history.

This was one of the most difficult things for me as I kept thinking that I had spent so much effort and did my best job, skipped lunches, worked on weekends, and stayed late after work sometimes, endured some of the most negative and annoying coworkers. And all of this is a waste. But then with a mindset shift all of these feelings were gone. It was just that those things and efforts served me in the past and present and the future has nothing to do with it.

Making peace involves forgiveness, not only for others but also for yourself. By letting go of resentment and regret, you create space for growth and renewal. It’s a conscious decision to break free from the chains of the past, allowing room for new opportunities, relationships, and experiences to unfold. Making peace with the past is not a one-time event but a continuous practice, resilience that makes the way for a more liberated and fulfilling future.

3: Reflect and Learn

Starting a new chapter in your life involves thinking about your past and understanding the lessons you’ve learned. Take some quiet time to reflect on both the good and tough times. Ask yourself questions about what you’ve achieved and what challenges taught you important things about yourself. Think about your strengths and the skills you’ve gained. Learning from the past isn’t just about admitting mistakes; it’s also about recognizing the positive qualities that helped you overcome difficulties. Don’t just think about it take notes to make this more constructive. To help you guide through this refer 100 prompts for self reflection.

4: Make New Plans to begin a new life

Make plans to help you transition into the new life. It will not be an immediate thing that one fine day you have a new life. You may have some commitments to attend to, things to complete, and preparations to make before you start your new life. Develop a realistic timeline, understanding that gradual progress is often more sustainable. Also, consider the changes you may need to make to start a new life and how they may affect those around you. For me it involved helping in closures at work, ensuring the handover of critical items, and changing my daughter’s school as I had enrolled her in one near my office but my house is far from my workplace.

5: Set New Goals for a New Life

A good way to anchor your new life, and get direction and motivation is to set new goals for your life that align with your new life and journey. Begin by clearly defining what you want to achieve, both in the short and long term. Break down these aspirations into actionable items, tangible steps that propel you toward your objectives. Regularly revisit and reassess your goals, celebrate milestones, and adjust strategies as needed. By incorporating actionable items into your goal-setting process, you empower yourself to make steady progress. And turn aspirations into tangible achievements in your new life journey.

6: Create new routines to begin new life

Creating a new routine is a good way to bring structure to your day. It can be overwhelming and emotionally challenging to step into a new life. There will be times when you may feel lost and confused. But having a routine will help you guide through the day and spend time intentionally. Make sure your new routine along with your needs and goals of the new life. I have a detailed post on routine and making a schedule to guide you through the process.

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7: Use a planner to organize a new life

To help you stay on track with all things and be well organized with your life, time, and task it is highly recommended to start using a planner. Even if you were not a planner user it is a good opportunity to introduce this positive change in your life. Using a planner offers many benefits like improving productivity, reducing stress, and many more. I use a digital life planner that helps me plan everything in one place and has a daily dashboard that tells me everything I need to do for the day. Start by planning week and month, make your to-do list, and set goals.

Regularly review and update your planner, allowing you to adapt to changing circumstances and prioritize tasks effectively. By making a planner an integral part of your new life, you not only enhance productivity but also cultivate a sense of control and purpose in your daily activities.

8: Plan your Finance

Taking control of your finances is a crucial step in starting a new chapter in life. Begin by assessing your current financial situation. Review income, expenses, debts, and savings to gain a clear understanding of your financial landscape. Create a budget that aligns with your new goals, allocating funds to essentials like housing, utilities, and groceries, while also earmarking resources for savings and discretionary spending. Consider building an emergency fund to provide a financial cushion in unforeseen circumstances.

Since I was quitting my job and dedicating myself to work on my blog I had to be careful with the finances and work on making a budget that aligned with the new income of the house and cut down on expenses so that we do not experience any immediate financial burden. Thankfully since I was already planning that path for quite a long time I was mentally prepared for this.

9: Be kind to yourself

Now that I look back at that time I feel that I took a long time to understand that I have been more kind to myself. I was kind of pushing myself to get working more hard on the blog and not giving time to settle down my emotions. As I was not only experiencing a lot of emotions regarding myself but also getting affected by the struggles of other coworkers. The moment I started to be more considerate about my emotional well-being I started to feel better and much in control.

Hence I suggest giving yourself the time and space needed to adjust to the changes and be patient with the process. Avoid comparing your journey to others, as each path is unique. Practice self-care regularly, ensuring you prioritize your physical and mental well-being. Establish boundaries to protect your energy and focus on what truly matters to you.

10: Take it slow

Understand that significant life changes don’t happen overnight, and adjusting to a new reality is a gradual process. Resist the urge to rush or feel pressured by arbitrary timelines. Allow yourself the time and space needed to navigate uncertainties and adapt to the unfamiliar.

Taking it slow also involves being present at the moment and savoring the experiences that contribute to your growth. This deliberate pace allows for a more mindful and intentional approach, increasing the likelihood of sustainable change. By taking one step at a time, you not only reduce stress but also lay a solid foundation for a more stable and fulfilling new life.

11: Take it as an opportunity to build a dream life

Starting a new life presents a unique opportunity to intentionally craft and build your dream life. Begin by envisioning the kind of life that aligns with your passions, values, and aspirations. Set audacious but realistic goals that reflect the lifestyle you desire. Break these goals down into actionable steps, creating a roadmap for your dream life.

Consider what elements contribute to your dream life, whether it’s a fulfilling career, meaningful relationships, personal growth, or adventure. Identify the skills, habits, and mindset needed to manifest these aspirations. Embrace the journey as a chance to reinvent yourself and create a life that brings you joy and satisfaction. I recommend making a vision board for your new life to give you clarity and motivate you towards it every day. For more details read how to make a vision board.

12: Seek support if you need

Starting a new life is a significant journey that can be made smoother with support. Reach out to friends, family, or trusted individuals to share your goals and gain valuable insights. Professional support from a therapist or counselor can provide structured guidance, aiding in self-reflection and decision-making. Joining communities with shared interests or goals offers a network of like-minded individuals, fostering inspiration and motivation. Remember, seeking support is a strength, not a weakness, and building a supportive network can empower you to navigate challenges and celebrate successes in your quest for a new and fulfilling life.

13: Practice Gratitude

Whether it is an overwhelm of the new journey or a negative emotion that leads you to a new life. Practicing gratitude will be a soothing experience. Take time each day to reflect on and express gratitude for the positive aspects of your life. It helps you shift your mindset from negativity and limitation to positivity and the feeling of abundance that you have with this opportunity to create a new life. It will help you be more optimistic and enable you to embrace the opportunities and possibilities that come with starting anew.

Conclusion

Whether it is a new year, a new phase of life, or a new job, take it as an opportunity to begin new life that you dream of. Leave the past but take the lessons you learned from it as you move towards your new life. Take it slow and intentionally to be more meaningful. It may take a few months to help you settle into your new life and write a new chapter of your life.

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